Help! I feel like a failure
Hello! Thank you so much for coming to visit my blog.
Today’s subject is about feeling like a failure. This has been coming up a lot for me lately and for people around me too, so I thought it was worthy of a bit of exploration.
Everyone experiences failure at some point in their lives. It's a natural part of learning and growing. It can happen anytime but especially when you are stepping out and attempting something new – like writing a book or running a small business or creating a blog post.
Feeling like a failure can be a difficult and painful experience. You can feel disappointment, self-doubt, and low self-esteem. Sometimes you feel like a failure from not meeting personal or professional goals. Other times it might be from making mistakes or receiving criticism or rejection (Ouch).
Here are some things I’ve found helpful :
Acknowledge the emotions that are coming up.
Allow them. Sit in the discomfort. This can be hard, but the emotions do pass.
I remind myself that everyone experiences setbacks and failures in life.
I try to focus on what I can learn from the experience by asking myself:
What was the result I hoped for?
What was the result I got?
What can I do differently?
I practice self-compassion and avoid negative self-talk. To be kind and understanding with myself in the same way I would be with a child or someone I care about.
Another helpful strategy is to reach out to supportive friends, family members, or a mental health professional. Talking about your feelings with others can help you process your thoughts and gain a fresh perspective.
Some other things to think about:
Set achievable goals for yourself and make sure you celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be. Your confidence and self-esteem will thank you.
Call results, results, without labelling one as success and one as failure.
Try to separate an outcome from your self-worth.
You are not a failure.
You just had a result that wasn’t what you hoped for. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and go forward wiser and stronger.
You’ve got this.
Until next time,
